Comments for NHBS http://www.nurturingheartsbirthservices.com/blog Just another WordPress weblog Tue, 15 May 2012 16:35:04 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 Comment on “At least you had a healthy baby….” by K http://www.nurturingheartsbirthservices.com/blog/?p=1429&cpage=1#comment-24587 K Tue, 15 May 2012 16:35:04 +0000 http://www.nurturingheartsbirthservices.com/blog/?p=1429#comment-24587 This whole post resonated with me so much. I cried through a lot of it, because it seems like finally someone else understands. I literally feel sick when someone says "at least you have a healthy baby", because of all these things you have mentioned. As I prepare for a VBAC with our forth baby, I find all these emotions come flooding back because I tried to bury all of it, feeling like I had no right to feel that anguish because I had a "healthy baby". I would never say that to someone now, and instead would really encourage them to sort through their feelings and acknowledge them. This whole post resonated with me so much. I cried through a lot of it, because it seems like finally someone else understands. I literally feel sick when someone says “at least you have a healthy baby”, because of all these things you have mentioned. As I prepare for a VBAC with our forth baby, I find all these emotions come flooding back because I tried to bury all of it, feeling like I had no right to feel that anguish because I had a “healthy baby”. I would never say that to someone now, and instead would really encourage them to sort through their feelings and acknowledge them.

]]> Comment on Labor at home as long as possible?? by mamacash http://www.nurturingheartsbirthservices.com/blog/?p=1178&cpage=1#comment-24583 mamacash Tue, 15 May 2012 15:06:43 +0000 http://www.nurturingheartsbirthservices.com/blog/?p=1178#comment-24583 i have had two previous delivers in the hospital. i had my first when i was 19yrs old. that labor was easy, well perfect. i went into labor naturally i was given pitocin when i arrived at the hospital they had eventually broke my water and things just seemed to move together seemsly. however with my second birth i was completely induced i was nieve and told to come in by a dr. that was not my primary. and at that point of my pregnancy i had been extermly uncomfortable for a while and i just wanted it to be over and to have my baby. However that day was like a nightmare. when my dr showed up in the morning she didn't know why i was there. then they just cranked up the Pitocin and forced labor. by the time i was 5cm my contractions were like a minute apart and they felt unnatural. they broke my water and continued with the pitocin. by the time i reached 8cm i had to push the pressure was so unbearable. the nurses kept telling not to push. It was like they weren't listening to me. i had to push. They had to use the forceps to deliver him he had marks on his face and head from them. i tore horribly because of the forceps. it was a traumatic expercience to say the least. I blame the hospital for this i was rushed through labor when in fact i should have been told to go home. i am now pregnant with my third child i will go to the hospital to birth but i will labor at home as long as possible i will be more forceful with my wishes and what i expect of them. they do after all work for me right? i pay for the insurance that pays them. if i had my own home and not a tiny apartment i would birth at home in water. I think hospitals take everything natural out of child birth. They turn it into a big medical show and try to squeeze every cent out of it. I am sure there are some doctors out there who actually listen to moms and respect their wishes. I think this is an awesome question and would love to here what OBs have to say about it. i have had two previous delivers in the hospital. i had my first when i was 19yrs old. that labor was easy, well perfect. i went into labor naturally i was given pitocin when i arrived at the hospital they had eventually broke my water and things just seemed to move together seemsly. however with my second birth i was completely induced i was nieve and told to come in by a dr. that was not my primary. and at that point of my pregnancy i had been extermly uncomfortable for a while and i just wanted it to be over and to have my baby. However that day was like a nightmare. when my dr showed up in the morning she didn’t know why i was there. then they just cranked up the Pitocin and forced labor. by the time i was 5cm my contractions were like a minute apart and they felt unnatural. they broke my water and continued with the pitocin. by the time i reached 8cm i had to push the pressure was so unbearable. the nurses kept telling not to push. It was like they weren’t listening to me. i had to push. They had to use the forceps to deliver him he had marks on his face and head from them. i tore horribly because of the forceps. it was a traumatic expercience to say the least. I blame the hospital for this i was rushed through labor when in fact i should have been told to go home. i am now pregnant with my third child i will go to the hospital to birth but i will labor at home as long as possible i will be more forceful with my wishes and what i expect of them. they do after all work for me right? i pay for the insurance that pays them. if i had my own home and not a tiny apartment i would birth at home in water. I think hospitals take everything natural out of child birth. They turn it into a big medical show and try to squeeze every cent out of it. I am sure there are some doctors out there who actually listen to moms and respect their wishes. I think this is an awesome question and would love to here what OBs have to say about it.

]]> Comment on Left to cry….alone by Amy http://www.nurturingheartsbirthservices.com/blog/?p=1773&cpage=2#comment-24231 Amy Thu, 10 May 2012 21:33:40 +0000 http://www.nurturingheartsbirthservices.com/blog/?p=1773#comment-24231 As the daughter of a woman who played by her own rules and breastfeed us long past when society thought it was appropriate and had us in bed with her for so long that I remember co-sleeping and BFing to this day (though not well) I can attest that nurtured babies are more independent. I now live on another continent from my mother but still speak to her every day to gain her wisdom in helping me raise my own daughter. Thanks mom for not listening to what society thought was best! As the daughter of a woman who played by her own rules and breastfeed us long past when society thought it was appropriate and had us in bed with her for so long that I remember co-sleeping and BFing to this day (though not well) I can attest that nurtured babies are more independent. I now live on another continent from my mother but still speak to her every day to gain her wisdom in helping me raise my own daughter. Thanks mom for not listening to what society thought was best!

]]> Comment on Left to cry….alone by Raven C. http://www.nurturingheartsbirthservices.com/blog/?p=1773&cpage=2#comment-24082 Raven C. Wed, 09 May 2012 04:26:58 +0000 http://www.nurturingheartsbirthservices.com/blog/?p=1773#comment-24082 I'll admit to being a little misty eyed right now. My kids are 15 months apart, and my youngest just turned 10 months old. I was looking at him today and I realized that he's not so much a baby anymore. I can't believe how quickly they grow. My oldest is 2, and it feels almost surreal sometimes because I remember bringing him home from the hospital at 7lbs 4oz and now he's 30 lbs of running, whooping, energetic toddler. I’ll admit to being a little misty eyed right now. My kids are 15 months apart, and my youngest just turned 10 months old. I was looking at him today and I realized that he’s not so much a baby anymore. I can’t believe how quickly they grow. My oldest is 2, and it feels almost surreal sometimes because I remember bringing him home from the hospital at 7lbs 4oz and now he’s 30 lbs of running, whooping, energetic toddler.

]]> Comment on Magic Umbilical Cords by Nikasha http://www.nurturingheartsbirthservices.com/blog/?p=1542&cpage=2#comment-24032 Nikasha Tue, 08 May 2012 17:04:17 +0000 http://www.nurturingheartsbirthservices.com/blog/?p=1542#comment-24032 Dana, I don't think Elfanie meant offense. It's just that not all of the blood in the placenta necessarily goes to the baby. The baby will get the correct amount of blood, and the remainder will be in the placenta. I have read of at least one situation where someone was able to do both delayed cord clamping and blood banking, but I don't know if it is common for enough blood to be left behind. Dana, I don’t think Elfanie meant offense. It’s just that not all of the blood in the placenta necessarily goes to the baby. The baby will get the correct amount of blood, and the remainder will be in the placenta. I have read of at least one situation where someone was able to do both delayed cord clamping and blood banking, but I don’t know if it is common for enough blood to be left behind.

]]> Comment on Left to cry….alone by Erin http://www.nurturingheartsbirthservices.com/blog/?p=1773&cpage=2#comment-23915 Erin Mon, 07 May 2012 13:07:33 +0000 http://www.nurturingheartsbirthservices.com/blog/?p=1773#comment-23915 So very beautidully told. Thank you... So very beautidully told. Thank you…

]]> Comment on VITA MUTARI by Andrea Sz. http://www.nurturingheartsbirthservices.com/blog/?p=16&cpage=1#comment-23861 Andrea Sz. Sun, 06 May 2012 23:18:33 +0000 http://www.nurturingheartsbirthservices.com/blog/?p=16#comment-23861 It is so true. I like these words. I was terrified of pain before I had my twins, because everyone talked about pain. But when the time came I was relaxed and accepting. As labor progressed I didn't feel "pain" but it was intense. Now when I describe pain when for example I dropped a huge rock on my finger or cut my hand, I would say having babies is nothing compared to these. I.e. having babies does not hurt. Birth is not injury, it is a normal part of life. Injuring a body part does hurt. There is a big difference and language should reflect that. It is so true. I like these words. I was terrified of pain before I had my twins, because everyone talked about pain. But when the time came I was relaxed and accepting. As labor progressed I didn’t feel “pain” but it was intense. Now when I describe pain when for example I dropped a huge rock on my finger or cut my hand, I would say having babies is nothing compared to these. I.e. having babies does not hurt. Birth is not injury, it is a normal part of life. Injuring a body part does hurt. There is a big difference and language should reflect that.

]]> Comment on Left to cry….alone by Maree http://www.nurturingheartsbirthservices.com/blog/?p=1773&cpage=2#comment-23599 Maree Fri, 04 May 2012 03:42:52 +0000 http://www.nurturingheartsbirthservices.com/blog/?p=1773#comment-23599 This post struck such a cord with me. My eldest son turned 21 years old last week. However, and yes get ready to gasp....my 2nd son is just 15mths old! It's surreal feeling to not only look at my eldest and see my new baby boy as well as look into my baby boys eyes and see the beautiful man I know he will become. xxxxxxxxxx This post struck such a cord with me. My eldest son turned 21 years old last week. However, and yes get ready to gasp….my 2nd son is just 15mths old! It’s surreal feeling to not only look at my eldest and see my new baby boy as well as look into my baby boys eyes and see the beautiful man I know he will become. xxxxxxxxxx

]]> Comment on “Thank goodness I had a homebirth!” by tori http://www.nurturingheartsbirthservices.com/blog/?p=1751&cpage=1#comment-23554 tori Thu, 03 May 2012 19:20:55 +0000 http://www.nurturingheartsbirthservices.com/blog/?p=1751#comment-23554 I've ÇctuÇlly said, to a number of people thÇt I'm certÇIn I would've either hÇd Ç deÇd baby or Çn unnecessÇry C-Sect. if I'd had two of my last 3 in hospitÇl. They look at me like I'm nut sorry for the missing A at times... my keyboÇrd is fickle and puts it in or not at it's own discretion. YES, it IS Çnnoying! *sigh* I’ve ÇctuÇlly said, to a number of people thÇt I’m certÇIn I would’ve either hÇd Ç deÇd baby or Çn unnecessÇry C-Sect. if I’d had two of my last 3 in hospitÇl. They look at me like I’m nut

sorry for the missing A at times… my keyboÇrd is fickle and puts it in or not at it’s own discretion. YES, it IS Çnnoying! *sigh*

]]> Comment on Left to cry….alone by Making parenting fun! | Wife Mother Woman’s Weblog http://www.nurturingheartsbirthservices.com/blog/?p=1773&cpage=2#comment-23482 Making parenting fun! | Wife Mother Woman’s Weblog Thu, 03 May 2012 00:33:17 +0000 http://www.nurturingheartsbirthservices.com/blog/?p=1773#comment-23482 [...] voice, may not be realistic (do you seriously obey each and ever road law?) and we only hold our babies for a little time (so if you want to let them sleep in your bed for a while….go for it! I am) I pray earnestly [...] [...] voice, may not be realistic (do you seriously obey each and ever road law?) and we only hold our babies for a little time (so if you want to let them sleep in your bed for a while….go for it! I am) I pray earnestly [...]

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